You might have a homegirl/BFF or best bud that you love and would do anything for. And you're certain the feeling is mutual. Why wouldn't it be? Y'all have never had any major arguments. No falling out. No peanut butter stealing.
And even better, your spouses are best friends, too. I mean, come on...you just can't ask for much better than that.
But...while you might think all is well, maybe your BFF is silently resenting you.
And it doesn't have to be on some malicious stuff, either. They might genuinely care about and love you. But maybe there are some things going on that they can't help but hate on...
- Maybe your relationship is flourishing while theirs has hit a snag. (An extra hit is if your man/woman is hotter than theirs).
- What if your career is booming while they dread going to work everyday? Or worse, what if you don't even have to work while they're counting every penny?
- Your Instagram posts get likes galore with seemingly no effort while they use every trick in the book to garner attention and get almost nowhere. (Yes, people actually get in their feelings about this).
- You're aging gracefully or can eat whatever you want and gain nothing, while even sniffing some bacon has their jeans about to pop.
- If they're constantly getting compared to you, and coming out on the inferior end.
I could keep going. But you see what I'm talking about.
You might not be doing anything wrong at all, but simply because you have something they don't, whatever it may be, they look at you funny. And if it's more than one thing, that snowball starts to build. And it just keeps rolling the more they're exposed to or reminded of it.
Before long, they're ready to explode and you never knew anything was wrong in the first place.
Why not just address it and get it out on the table, you ask? Because they know they're being petty. They know they're wrong for resenting you for stuff that's not your fault. So they keep it to themselves, hoping to just get over it or pray it away. Which doesn't always work.
In my latest release, When You Share Too Much, Anika and Chrisette were best friends. Had been for years. But over time, Anika started realizing more and more ways Chrisette seemed to best her without even trying. All the while, Chrisette thought all was hunky-dory with them.
So Anika started giving Chrisette the side eye; not really wanting but also not able to help it.
Now how long do you think a friendship can really last under those circumstances?
I'm not trying to make you paranoid about your BFF. Just saying...it can happen.
I enjoyed creating this drama for Anika and Chrisette because it's something that can totally be related to. How many movies are there centering around this very thing? Jealousy and envy are poison to friendships.
And truth be told, you just never really know what anyone is thinking.
I'd love for you to read this book because there's plenty going on besides this. It's available in paperback, Kindle, Nook, Kobo, and iTunes. Just click the links.
I love ya for reading. Until next week!
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